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  • Is It Always a Turf War? Adult Daughters and Their Mothers

    By on July 2, 2016

      “ Every time my mother walks in, she takes over. I get a running commentary on everything I’m doing wrong with my kid, my life, my apartment.  It’s crazy-making.” - Caitlyn, age 34  “She asks my advice and then gets really irritated when it’s not...

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  • Jealous Mothers and Their Daughters: The Last Dirty Secret?

    By on July 2, 2016

    “Even now, it’s hard to use the word ‘jealous’ about my mother. The idea that a mother would be, could be, jealous of her own kid paints a picture of a monster. Better cruel or uncaring than jealous, I’d say. It’s just so damning.” Source: Flickr...

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  • What Makes a Good Mother Anyway?

    By on July 2, 2016

    I deliberately chose the painting by Mary Cassatt as an illustration because it serves as a cultural shorthand for the prevailing view of motherhood—more of a tender and loving calling than not, suffused with pastel colors, tints of calm. Of course, while there certainly are moments...

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  • 4 Things Unloving Mothers Miss Out On

    By on July 2, 2016

    Source: Author If you are thoughtful and reflective, revisiting pivotal moments and experiences in your life will occasionally yield a new perspective. I've written at least a few hundred thousand words about unloved daughters in a book and articles (not to mention that I've spent youthful hours in therapy, read reams...

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  • Should You Divorce Your Mother?

    By on July 2, 2016

    Source: Copyright free, unsplash.com In the court of public opinion, the daughter is always on trial. The societal response to a mother or father who disinherits a child—whether it’s someone famous like Joan Crawford who cut two of her children out of her will, referring only obliquely to “reasons...

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